Alcohol? Drugs? No thanks, I’ve done enough damage with chocolate.

Today’s Wisdom Bite about harm reduction acknowledges that our drug of choice differs only by degree. All addictions involve the same brain networks and have some level of stigma and shame for the person struggling. A harm reduction approach is based on the preservation of a person’s dignity and autonomy, while helping to reduce the risks and harm of their behaviours. There’s an overwhelming body of evidence that this ‘compassion-first’ model works. It welcomes the shades of grey that are missing from the ‘good-bad’ framework of abstinence. If food is both your love and your nemesis, harm reduction is also the only way to restore your natural relationship with food.

If abstinence doesn’t feel realistic or sustainable to you, harm reduction is your solution…

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Here’s what you need to know

If abstinence doesn’t feel realistic or sustainable to you, harm reduction is your solution. The reality is, binge eating and food addiction are longstanding and resistant behaviours for those who struggle with them. These behaviours are influenced by a multitude of factors: genetic; environmental; socioeconomic; biological; neurological; psychological; and spiritual. So it’s a huge misconception to think that readiness and abstinence are even necessary to begin addressing the many facets of disordered eating or an active food addiction.

  • Avoidance is not a life skill. Rules and restrictions that have you avoiding trigger foods or over-planning situations will halt your developmental learning; these methods can only teach coping mechanisms not life skills. The argument is “It’s easier this way.” Note: the easy path is rarely the growth path. Adherence to a rigid – albeit healthier – set of behaviours often becomes the new dysfunction (the diet and exercise industries are rife with examples of this). Harm reduction offers a safe space for exploration and experimentation as you learn to respond to your needs in a way that can withstand the tests of life.
  • You can’t access your bigger life by selling your Soul. Radical changes typically lead to or amplify disordered eating (e.g. cutting out entire food groups). The argument is “It’s a means to an end.” But trying to control your way to weight loss or to freedom from your food obsession will only bring fear to your relationship with food and leave you with conditional outcomes (i.e. once you stop the control, the weight loss and freedom evaporate). The litmus test is simple: would you still eat this way if it didn’t lead to any weight loss or freedom? If not, you’re selling your Soul to get those results. Harm reduction ensures gradual and sustainable outcomes.
  • Abstinence by choice is the holy grail. Avoidance and radical changes are hallmarks of abstinence by control, which equates to reluctant compliance. The argument is “Fake it ‘til you make it”…ahem, see selling your Soul above. Abstinence by choice, however, is a form of spiritual honouring. It fosters a cheerful willingness that can only be achieved from the relaxed energy of letting something go (vs. the tension of giving something up). This is what happens when you do your inner work and use harm reduction to dial down your resistance. When resistance is addressed, the disorder or addiction falls away naturally over time.

Most people intuitively know whether or not harm reduction is right for them. If you’re drawn towards this approach, you’re likely more intent on: developing an internal ethic (vs. relying on external accountability); employing critical thinking (vs. a ‘just tell me what to do and I’ll do it’ mentality) and preserving the pleasure food holds for you (vs. becoming food neutral). Interestingly enough, all of these are hallmarks of a natural relationship with food.

Here’s what you can practice

Start by choosing a substance or behaviour that you currently derive some pleasure from – but please, stick to something that is non-threatening to you personally with regard to tipping into a binge or an addiction! For me, this might be Baileys on the rocks or surfing online for tech gadgets. Be sure to choose something you have a desire for, not a distaste for (e.g. cigarettes would not work for me here as I have a strong aversion to them). This is about engaging your dopamine network and its ‘wants’.

Next, place that bottle of Baileys in clear view or place something in your shopping cart…and wait. Notice the appeal of these things each time you walk into the room or revisit your browser. But also notice how readily your brain can switch away from them to focus on other things. There’s probably some accompanying, supportive self-talk as well (e.g. “I enjoy Baileys but I don’t want that right now” or “Cool gadget but I don’t really need it”). This is what a healthy brain response looks, feels and sounds like and it’s important to recognize your brain is functioning well here.

Now imagine replacing those things with your favourite chocolate and consider the contrast. A little bit distracted? A whole lot obsessed? The difference is the salience your brain has assigned to your drug of choice. The message it’s stuck on is “I must have this to survive.” Of course, if you have some and then try to stop, the only message you’ll hear is “More.” This is what an addicted brain reaction looks, feels and sounds like. It’s absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. Remember, your brain was doing just fine with the non-threatening items. The good news is, by practicing with the non-threatening items, you can eventually learn to transfer these skills.

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How did it go for you?

What I love most about harm reduction is the experiential aspect of it. We grow through direct experience, not just theory. Let’s face it, you don’t learn how to ride a bike by just reading a really great book about it. And you don’t master riding that bike by holding yourself to an unrealistic level of perfection. You try. You fall (notice I didn’t say fail). You try again with some course corrections. You fall again from something unexpected. You keep trying and you keep progressing.

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